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Does your pride keep you from loving well?

Oh, pride.   The word in itself has so many different meanings.  We take pride in our country.  We pride ourselves on our accomplishments.  I’m proud of my children when they meet their goals.  I’m proud of the hard work I put into that project.  I’m too proud to admit that I let my children’s behavior dictate my feelings toward them sometimes.  I was too proud to admit I was wrong in an argument with my husband.  My pride keeps me from humbling myself and letting God work in my heart.


While feeling proud of hard work or an accomplish may seem innocent enough, I have found that many times I let that feeling of being proud turn into arrogant pride.  I took credit for the things that God accomplished.  You see, I now know good and well that I would never have been able to accomplish some of the things I have without Him.


Is your pride keeping you from loving others well? Jump into this 30-day Scripture writing plan and let God do His refining work in your heart!


My career has been a perfect example of this.  Several years ago, I taught middle school English.  I was a good teacher.  I knew it.  My data proved it.  I received the affirmations from my students and my administration.  Other teachers were sent to my classroom to see how they should be running their classrooms.  Oh gracious me… I found myself in such a heaping pile of pride that I couldn’t see straight.  I can see now how much damage and hurt I caused the teachers around me.  My friends.  I was absolutely not giving God credit for the great things happening in my classroom.  Sure, I acknowledged that He gave me gifts as a teacher, but it was MY doing that increased those students scores.  It was MY doing that the administration applauded my accomplishments.  Those other teachers should be doing things MY way.


Thankfully, God has done some bigtime work in changing my heart.  And if I’m brutally honest, it hurt.  I was humbled…. rather, my pride humiliated me.  True humility came later.  And it’s still an area where I’m still being refined.


In Luke 18:9-14, we read the parable of the Pharisee and the tax collector.

Then, Jesus told this story to some who had great confidence in their own righteousness ans scorned everyone else: “Two men went to the Temple to pray.  One was a Pharisee, and the other was a despised tax collector.  The Pharisee stood by himself and prayed this prayer: ‘I thank You, God, that I am not like other people – cheaters, sinners, adulterers.  I’m certainly not like that tax collector! I fast twice a week, and I give You a tenth of my income.’ 

But the tax collector stood at a distance and dared not even lift his eyes to heaven as he prayed.  Instead, he beat his chest in sorrow saying, ‘O God, be merciful to me, for I am a sinner.’ I tell you, this sinner, not the Pharisee, returned home justified before God. For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”


Oh how I’ve been that Pharisee.  How I’ve judged and exalted myself above others.  By the grace of God, I can see how He’s working in me.  I hate my pride.  I pray regularly for Him to continue to humble my heart so I can love those around me.  I’m so thankful that God is a redeeming and faithful God.

Is your pride keeping you from loving others well? Jump into this 30-day Scripture writing plan and let God do His refining work in your heart!

Starting on August 1, I challenge each of you to work through this Scripture-writing plan over pride.  I pray that God will move mountains to remove these hearts of stone that we hold on to.  I pray that we will humble ourselves to see where our pride has damaged relationships.  I pray that we will see where where we can love instead of judge.


Please join us.  I’ll be posting over in our Gather & Dwell Facebook group.  We’ll continue the conversation, pray for each other, and encourage each other as God does His refining and redeeming work in our hearts.  I’m so excited to see where He leads us through this next month!




5 thoughts on “Does your pride keep you from loving well?

  1. Is August “hand copy Scripture month”? You’re the third person I’ve heard talk about it in the past few days! I love this idea. I’ll be doing it in October as one of my 30-day challenges in the next year. I definitely think it will help curb me being too proud of some things.

    1. Hi Colleen! I try to publish a new one each month. I believe that spending that intentional time actually writing out Scripture gives us a chance to truly pause and reflect on how the Lord is speaking to us.

  2. This spoke to me as I’m also a teacher who does a good job. I know that I’m prideful and am curious how God changed that in you? I can SAY that the gift of teaching is from God, but that doesn’t mean that I live that belief. Today’s passage tells me what not to do, but I already know that. I just can’t figure out the way to stop doing it and what that would look like if I did. I’m doing the scripture writing with you and I’m hopeful that God will speak to me and change my heart in this.

    1. I think that I was exceptionally stubborn and God had to really humble me before I could begin to give Him credit. I took credit for being a good teacher, but then all the sudden I wasn’t. I couldn’t seem to do anything right. The more I prayed about it, the more I heard Him tell me that it wasn’t about me and my ability to teach. It was about complete surrender and my obedience to Him. The last two years have been a long journey in being refined, yet I’ve heard Him over and over again ask, “Do you trust Me?” If my answer is going to be yes, then it will take full humility. There’s no room for my prideful nature or my determination to do it my way.

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